How To Get the Girl/Guy You Want

Have you ever read one of those articles about how to find the perfect guy or girl and been sorely disappointed? Well, prepare to get your mind blown, because I'm about to share with you some ancient secrets of seduction. They are easy to follow and guaranteed to work.

I'll start with how to get the girl you want (Don't worry ladies, I'll follow with some tips for you, too!) :

1. Wait exactly 2 minutes and 43 seconds before you respond to a text. You don't want to sound desperate, but you don't want to seem like you're ignoring her either. This will either send the message that you are a busy person or that you don't like to read, so it's a win-win situation. I highly recommend that you invest in a watch, because those 43 extra seconds are essential if you want the girl to like you.

2. Be random. This is where a lot of guys mess up. They try to stay on topic and keep a coherent conversation going, but that's not what girls want. They want something spontaneous and exciting. Next time you're having a deep conversation with a girl you like and she's pretending to understand what you're saying, just say or do something really random. It's even better if you interrupt her while she's talking, and it's important not to explain yourself. It will make you seem mysterious, and girls dig that.

3. Compliment her. You have to be original, so don't just tell her she looks pretty. Comment on something that is unique about her. Tell her how the mole on her arm really accentuates her skin tone, or how nice her earlobes look. If you're feeling daring, tell her how well groomed her mustache looks. Believe me, she won't ever forget your compliments if you make them original!

Now, here are some tips for the ladies:

1. Do NOT tell him you like him. This is the cardinal rule. Even If he says he likes you back, he's just trying to be polite. I mean, what type of guy wants a girl to explicitly express interest, anyways? Weird ones!

2. Be subtle. Guys hate it when you are straightforward about your feelings, so you have to make sure you're really subtle when dropping hints. For example, positioning yourself at a 45 degree angle is perfect, because it sends the message that you like him but you aren't too easy. A 90 degree angle on the other hand is a big no no, because it screams "I'm desperate!" Remember, guys love to pay attention to these tiny details while they are out on dates. So if he doesn't respond immediately to your hints, it probably means he doesn't like you. Or you're just not being subtle enough.

3. Agree with everything he says. Guys want you to conform to their beliefs. So if you have an opinion about something, just keep it to yourself and nod. This is not only true for the big issues like politics and religion, but also for the little things. I remember when I was on a date with a girl I thought I liked a lot. We were getting ice cream, and I told her my favorite flavor was chocolate. She responded by saying, "Really? I like vanilla!" Needless to say, we didn't work out.

You know what's crazy? There are actually numerous articles like these about how to get someone to like you, and plenty of people actually buy this nonsense! The truth is there are no magical secrets that can guarantee that a girl or guy will like you. The best thing you can do is be yourself, be honest about your feelings, and when you find someone who likes the real you, it will lead to a longer and healthier relationship. Don't be afraid to share your interests or your beliefs, no matter what other people think of them. That is what makes you a unique person, and you deserve someone who appreciates what makes you different from other guys or girls. Always remember that.

Making a Difference, Every Day

This is my first blog, so I'll start by introducing myself. If you're reading this, you probably already know me. My name is Ahmed Khokar, I'm a rising sophomore at the College of William and Mary, and I want to make a difference. That sounds a bit idealistic, but it's not as difficult as it may seem. In fact, many make a big difference without even realizing it!

Let me explain. Regardless of which career path I choose, I want to make a big difference. As a doctor, I could help to cure illnesses. As a writer, I could provide for someone what my favorite authors provide for me. As a teacher, I could help guide the future working men and women of the country. Any of these three careers would make me happy, but making a difference doesn't begin with a career choice.

I think the most important thing we can do to make a difference is to be sincere and honest. This is the basis of "Real Talk." Honesty will always have more of an impact on someone than politeness or flattery. Your words and actions will always be significant if they are sincere.

The little stuff can make a difference every day. I'm a big believer in smiles, whether you're smiling at someone, making someone else smile, or both. Smiles can make someone's day, even if it's a stranger, and can be dangerously contagious! Do you remember how you felt the last time you were walking somewhere, and someone smiled at you? The best part is it only takes a few seconds! Making someone laugh can do even more to make a difference. If just for a moment, a laugh can make people forget the stress in their lives. And hugs? Don't even get me started on hugs!

Your words, especially when sincere, can also make a difference. Tell your best friend you miss or are thinking of him/her! Tell your loved ones how much you care about them! You don't have to do these things every day, but they take 5 minutes and I guarantee they will make someone's day much better.

If you have free time, there are an infinite number of ways to make someone's day. Personally I love to write poems, and sometimes I write a short poem to share with a few friends. Whether it's a poem about life, love, or just something silly, it can be a good pick-me-up. You can take the initiative to plan a fun night out with friends. You can get a small present for someone, just because. The possibilities are endless!

So every day this summer I'm going to try to make a difference, one smile, one laugh, one hug, one poem at a time, and I hope you will join me.